Being Assertive (15-03-17)

” To be passive is to let others decide for you.To be aggressive is to decide for others. To be assertive is to decide for yourself. And to trust that there is enough, that you are enough.” Edith Eva Eger

There are many different ways, that people communicate. For example passively, aggressively, a combination of styles or assertively. Reviewing your use of verbal and non-verbal behaviour may provide insights into how you can better respect yourself and others. Doing so may help to reduce stress and increase quality of life. Being assertive encourages one to express themselves openly, whilst also respecting the rights and feelings of other people.

According to the Mayo Clinic e-article, May 9th 2017, being assertive can help manage stress, anger and improve coping skills. The article also highlights a number of benefits, such as: increasing job satisfaction and nurturing honest relationships.

“The practice of assertiveness: being authentic in our dealings with others; treating our values and persons with decent respect in social contexts; refusing to fake the reality of who we are or  what we esteem in order to avoid disapproval; the willingness to stand up for ourselves and our ideas in appropriate ways in appropriate contexts.” Nathaniel Branden

Building stronger relationships is therefore one of the many positive effects that may result from communicating assertively.