When facing disagreements, conflict may present an opportunity for personal and interpersonal growth. Conflict occurs in most relationships and doesn’t have to be a negative experience. ‘How’ we manage disagreements and differences may be crucial in order to strengthen and maintain the needs of everyone involved.
Working together or collaborating to find solutions that are mutually satisfying, encourages people to share ideas and listen in a cooperative way. The aim here is to find the best possible solution for all people. Trying to satisfy each other’s needs can be rewarding, resulting with a you win/I win outcome, however this requires effort, commitment and practice.
How do you approach disagreements? Take some time to consider this question. Are there areas where you can improve? Sometimes, anger can result during heated discussions. As highlighted by the Mayo Clinic e-article, May 4th 2018, it is important to deal with anger in a positive way. Some suggestions offered in this article include: taking time out and learning to express frustrations when you are calm.
If you have been feeling stuck with a personal conflict, talking to a counsellor may help.
“No matter how thin you slice it, there will always be two sides.” Baruch Spinoza
“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” Mahatma Gandhi
“Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from doing what you can do.” John Wooden